How to Get Your Ex to Return Your Calls
submitted: Jun 4th 2008 |
by: ErikJ.Michaels
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After the big ordeal that is your breakup, it is only natural that your ex will be somewhat evasive and hard to get on the phone. If you ever want to get him back, you will have to find a way around that. Leaving just the right message on his voicemail or answering machine can really make him want to call you back...and it is pretty easy to do if you have the right plan!
Before I show you the best technique for getting him to call you back, I am going to point out some of the more common mistakes people make with these phone calls. Even if you have already made one or more of these errors, it is still ok...but here are some of the things you should try to avoid doing when leaving that magic message:
--Begging him to come back, because without him your life is empty and useless. Even if this is how you feel the Plea as it is called does NOT help your case any. Pleading for him to come back into your life just makes you look weak and like someone he is glad to be out from under.
--Claiming that it is an absolute Emergency and implying that calling you back is a life and death matter. Being so dramatic is not going to make things go any better for you. He knows it is not an emergency, and so do you. It can be hard to deal with this time, but making it out to be an emergency just hurts your chances of getting him back.
--Playing the part of the romance movie guy who leaves a big, long, emotional message that melts the heart of his angry sweetie and fixes all the problems they had throughout the entire movie. Life simply does not work that way, I am sorry to say. It takes a lot more fixing than that, and in the real world your ex usually skips half the message and deletes it. It is another form of drama that is just too overwhelming and will not help you at all.
So now that you know how to NOT make him call you back, here is the secret to getting his attention and all but forcing him to...self-interest and curiosity. These two powerful motivational tools have been used to get people to do unbelievable things that they never would have if they were asked any other way.
Try saying something like this:
-I just wanted to thank you, you really helped me out. I would really love it if you would call me back, because I would like to give you my thanks in person.-
This kind of line makes your ex wonder what it was he did that helped you so much, and makes the call seem less like an attempt to convince him to get back together. It feels relatively harmless, and yet has a lot of intrigue to it...he almost won't be able to help himself.
But before you go ANY FURTHER, STOP. When he calls you, if you do not have an underlying plan or strategy for getting him back, you could completely ruin your chances at rebuilding your relationship. DO NOT RISK THIS.
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